Author: Mandie Holgate / Source: Lifehack
Whether you find yourself facing redundancy or the loss of a loved one, stuck in a rut or unable to stay motivated, making positive changes is likely to feature in the things you’re going to need to do to feel happy and successful again.
However, it can be easier said than done.
In this article, I will share with you how I helped my clients to make positive changes and lead a fulfilling life again, and how you can make it too.
From losing control over life to radiating happiness again
They sat opposite me and didn’t just look dejected, they looked like the world had caved in on them and was likely to stop their heart with the effort of living. Everything felt wrong and seemed wrong. How could they move on from that?
This client had come to me because they felt like they’d lost all control over their life and it didn’t matter what they did, how they acted or who they spent time with, everything seemed to go wrong. When that is how life is, how do you make changes then?
Why should you even bother? This is exactly how the client had been feeling with the “what’s the point?” feelings. The point of change is that although it can feel tough and difficult to even get started, let alone keep up the changes you’ve made.
Change is something we can learn to do organically to live the life we want to, and feeling the way we want to. When we feel good somehow, we feel stronger and more capable like we can tackle anything.
Wind on 6 months and this client doesn’t just smile when they walk in, they radiate sunbeams and happiness.
It’s almost like a different person is before me. And they’ve not just gained a smile and got rid of “the world hates me” look about them, they’ve “magically” found they are earning more money and attracting opportunities that hadn’t seem imaginable, let alone possible 6 months before.What happened? How did they do that? No, we didn’t bring anyone back to life or help them win the lottery.
I want to share with you the tools and techniques we used. Before I do that we need to look at why we need to change.
Why change is necessary for everyone
Like many things in life, the need to bring about change rarely happens overnight. It takes something like a Eureka moment, a coach or an accident for us to really look at ourselves and realize that something needs to change.
We don’t wake up one day mega stressed and feeling like life is like climbing a mountain of sand in heels, with our hands tied behind our back. These things gradually descend upon us until we start to suffer the results. It is often the results that we notice first and not the need for change.
Signs you need some change
Here’s some signs your life needs some change:
- Can’t get to sleep or can’t stay awake.
- Can’t concentrate on a book.
- You spend too long on social media scrolling through stuff you’ve already looked at.
- Can’t focus your mind on work or study.
- Lack interest in further learning or hobbies.
- Gained some weird rash, random pains or headaches.
- Eating too much or lost your appetite.
- Steering clear of friends and family.
- Snapping or moaning all the time.
All classic “My life needs some changes” results. What is worse, all the above damage your health, your career, your relationships, your earning potential, your happiness, your contentment and your life in general.
Perks of making a positive change
Ever noticed that person that seems permanently happy and in a good mood? They aren’t necessarily the person with the biggest bank account and yet somehow, they exude true happiness. They are highly likely to be a person that is in touch with what they need so that they can be like that.
To really excite you about change and its potential for overhauling your life, here are some of the results I’ve seen with clients through change:
- Higher earnings.
- Stop fearing what people think of them.
- Stop trying to please everyone and put themselves at the top of the importance list.
- More confidence.
- Happier.
- Healthier.
- New relationships.
- New careers.
- Stood up for what they believed in.
- Overcome shyness.
- Better at sales.
- Business growth.
- Overcome agoraphobia.
To say the list is extensive would be an understatement, although I have coached thousands so I really believe in what I share here.
Let’s look at how you can create positive change in your life.
How to create positive change in your life
One of the reasons we don’t create positive change in our life is because we don’t have a big enough desire to do it. Before you do anything else, feel the pain of the way things are for you right now on a level that makes you physically want to squirm in your seat.
When I do this with clients, I lay it on thick. For instance, when a client told me that they want financial freedom, they talked about their over enthusiastic love of the credit cards. I picked up a note and a credit card and through them in the air joking “Fly free my pretties, fly free!” the client was highly embarrassed (as you would be with someone throwing money around a desk) but when the credit card landed on their notepad, they flicked it away.
I asked them if they felt the credit card was dangerous or something? And they were able to feel the full pain that the credit card was bringing to their lives and their families. Together…
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